바울의 마지막 문안 인사 (30) 바울 은 마지막 문안 인사에서 이렇게 말씀했습니다 : “아킵보에게 이르기를 주 안에서 받은 직분을 삼가 이루라고 하라” ( 골 4:17). 아킵보는 자신의 직분을 충분히 입증하라는 말씀 입니다 . 신약성경에 나타난 주요 직분으로는 목사 , 장로 , 집사 등이 있습니다 . 직분자들은 자신의 직분을 충분히 입증하기 위해선 (1) 그리스도 예수님께 감사해야 합니다 . 디모데전서 1 장 12 절입니다 : “나에게 힘을 주신 우리 주 그리스도 예수님께 내가 감사하는 것은 나를 충성스러운 사람으로 여겨 나에게 직분을 맡겨 주셨기 때문입니다 . ” 바울은 자신이 예수 그리스도를 믿지 않았을 때에 모르고 하나님을 모독하고 성도들을 핍박하던 난폭한 사람이었는데 하나님께서 자신을 불쌍히 여겨 주시사 회심케하셨을 뿐만 아니라 사명을 주시사 이방인의 사도로 세우셨기에 예수님께 감사했습니다 . (2) 은혜의식 속에서 더 많이 수고해야 합니다 . 고린도전서 15 장 8-10 절입니다 : “맨 나중에는 부족하기 짝이 없는 내게도 나타나셨습니다 . 나는 사도들 중에 가장 보잘것없는 사람이며 하나님의 교회를 박해했기 때문에 사도라고 불릴 자격마저 없습니다 . 그러나 오늘날 내가 이렇게 된 것은 하나님의 은혜로 된 것이며 내게 주신 그분의 은혜가 헛되지 않아 내가 다른 모든 사도들보다 더 많이 일했습니다 . 그렇지만 그것은 내가 한 것이 아니라 나와 함께 하신 하나님의 은혜였습니다 . ” 그래서 그는 은혜 의식 속에서 다른 모든 사도들보다 더 많이 일을 했습니다 . 우리도 그 리 해야 합니다 .
About marital conflicts … (1)
My wife and I fought a lot over the course of about 20 years. Reflecting on that time, I’d like to share a
few lessons I’ve learned about marital conflicts:
1. We fought over trivial matters. Many of our arguments were over insignificant
issues. Over time, fighting became a habit, and we began to treat it lightly,
even though it wasn’t healthy.
2. These small fights built up over time. Each conflict added another layer to the
burdens in our hearts, and we developed distorted thoughts and perspectives
about each other. In essence, unhealthy prejudices about one another gradually
took root in our hearts.
3. We started to label each other. During arguments, we would internally say
things like, “That’s just how they are,” imposing our own assumptions onto each
other.
4. We lost the ability to understand one another. This labeling caused us to lose the capacity
to empathize with each other, which only deepened the misunderstandings between
us.
5. These misunderstandings led to emotional
separation. The accumulation of these
unresolved issues caused us to drift apart emotionally. It felt as though we
were like a train derailing from its tracks, no longer walking the shared path
of life together but instead heading down separate roads.
6. As a result, our relationship grew more distant.
We began to lose interest in each other, and both of us became increasingly
self-centered.
7. This led to more frequent marital conflicts, and
over time, our arguments and fights left larger and deeper emotional scars in
our hearts.
8. In particular, during our fights, we crossed
lines we should never have crossed, saying and doing things we should have
avoided.
9. Especially when we crossed those lines, we were
unaware of just how devastating the wounds inflicted on our relationship were.
By the time we began to realize it, it was like a ship sailing far from the
shore—we were living under the same roof, but our hearts had already grown
distant from each other.
10. From this experience, I came to realize that it
is far better for a couple to be physically apart but emotionally close than to
be physically close but emotionally distant.
11. However, a heart that is deeply and severely
wounded cannot truly forgive or seek forgiveness without God’s intervention.
While the mind may understand, genuine words and actions that come from the
heart seem impossible without His help.
12. When a couple refuses to forgive and fails to
recognize the need for forgiveness, it may seem humanly impossible to maintain
their relationship.
13. Despite this, God's great love and abundant
grace, under His sovereignty, have touched each of our hearts with His
nail-pierced hands.
14. Even when a marital relationship seems hopeless
and it appears impossible to forgive each other, God has slowly, little by
little, healed our broken hearts.
15. It was as though the Lord, like a surgeon
cutting where necessary, carefully removed the tumors of bitterness and the
elements that were gradually destroying our relationship.
16. Usually, during surgery, the patient feels no pain because of general anesthesia, but in some urgent situations, surgery is performed without anesthesia, leading to extreme pain. In the same way, when a marriage is in a critical state, it seems to undergo intense suffering. This suffering, in God’s eyes, is necessary, and it appears to be an unavoidable "surgical" pain for us.
17. There seems to be an essential pain in the
restoration of a marital relationship. The greater the pain, the more deeply
our hearts are broken and shattered, allowing us to hear God's voice more
clearly through His Word in the midst of great suffering.
18. And the Holy Spirit, who dwells within us, works
a miraculous wonder in making us obey the words of God He has made us hear.
19. Experiencing this miracle, we were amazed to
deeply realize, through intense pain, that God is truly alive and that He loves
our marriage more than we could ever comprehend.
20. Therefore, marital conflicts become a valuable
opportunity for each of us to recognize what needs to be thoroughly broken and
rebuilt, a precious chance to approach the Lord with a humble heart, and a
valuable moment to surrender our relationship to God and hold onto hope.
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