https://youtu.be/RX4eRw9LbYo?si=5UPZZHxIVe0qVcMN
"Emotional debt" " To be emotionally free, you need to remove the obstacles that keep you in emotional debt. Emotional debt is any accumulation of unresolved old feelings that causes you to distort your view of the present. When you are in emotional debt, you consume so much energy trying to conceal old feelings that you have insufficient energy left to work effectively or to love with commitment. Unaddressed feelings also have great power to prejudice your judgement and over-sensitize you, causing you to take innocent events personally, overreact to them, lose control, and in so doing, loss faith in yourself." (David Viscot, "Emotionally Free" in H. Norman Wright's "WHEN THE PAST WON'T LET YOU GO")