"자녀를 건강한 아이로 키우려면? 부모 자신부터 감정 다스려라 부모의 감정이 무엇보다 자녀의 감정에 큰 영향을 미친다 / 셔터스톡 부모라면 자녀의 감정을 존중하는 것의 중요성에 대해 들어봤을 것이다. 하지만 부모인 당신의 감정은 어떠한가? 임상 사회 복지사이자 심리 치료사인 힐러리 제이콥스 헨델과 심리학자이자 양육 교육자인 줄리 프라가 박사는 신간, 『부모도 감정이 있다(Parents Have Feelings, Too)』에서 통념을 뒤집었다. 즉, 정서적으로 건강한 아이를 양육할 수 있도록 하기 위해선 먼저 부모 자신의 감정을 다스릴 줄 알아야 한다는 것이 핵심 메시지다. 이들이 부모들에게 어떤 조언을 했는지 CNN과 함께 알아본다. 부모에게 가장 중요한 감정, '분노' 헨델은 부모가 다뤄야 할 6가지 핵심 감정으로 ▲분노 ▲슬픔 ▲두려움 ▲혐오 ▲기쁨 ▲흥분을 꼽았다. 그러면서 ‘분노’를 가장 중요한 핵심 감정으로 보았다. 그녀는 “분노는 파괴적인 잠재력을 가지고 있기 때문에 사람들을 곤경에 빠뜨리는 감정이며, 그래서 우리는 대개 그것을 묻어버린다. 그런데 이때 분노는 안으로 폭발하여 우울, 죄책감, 불안, 수치심으로 나타날 수 있다. 혹은 밖으로 폭발하여 공격성으로 표출될 수 있다.”고 설명했다. 중요한 것은 분노를 ‘행동’으로 옮기지 않고 ‘경험’하는 방법을 배우는 것이다. 이는 분노에 이름을 붙이고, 신체에서 어떻게 느껴지는지 알아차리고, 그 순간의 충동이 무엇인지를 인식하며, 궁극적으로는 그 에너지를 방출하는 것을 포함하는 내면의 과정이다. 이에 더해 헨델은 분노를 두 개의 분리된 단계로 이해할 필요성을 말했다. 분노를 경험하는 내적인 과정과 스스로와 가족에게 건설적인 방식으로 분노를 표현하는 외적인 과정이 그것이다. 한편, 프라가 박사는 엄마와 달리, 아빠들의 경우 ‘분노’라는 감정처리에 더욱 익숙하지 않다고 지적했다. 하지만 아빠들...
"Six Reasons Why a Missionary Should Know Theology
*Introduction*
Missions is not simply crossing cultures; it is carrying the truth of God into every culture. A missionary is not only a traveler or a humanitarian but a messenger of eternal truth. To faithfully proclaim Christ in the nations, a missionary must have a deep foundation in theology—the study of God and His works. Without theology, the missionary’s passion may burn brightly, but without clarity and direction, that passion can easily mislead or even harm.
*1. Theology Anchors the Missionary in Truth*
In the field, a missionary will meet diverse worldviews, religions, and philosophies. Without a strong grasp of Scripture and sound doctrine, they risk mixing the gospel with cultural beliefs or personal opinions.
Example: In some contexts, syncretism—blending Christianity with local animistic or ancestral practices—becomes a real danger. A missionary grounded in theology can clearly distinguish biblical truth from cultural distortion.
Biblical Anchor: “Watch your life and doctrine closely. Persevere in them, because if you do, you will save both yourself and your hearers.” (1 Timothy 4:16)
*2. Theology Gives the Missionary a Clear Gospel Message*
The Great Commission is not just to go, but to teach all nations (Matthew 28:19–20). A missionary must know:
Who God is (Trinity, holiness, love).
Who Christ is (fully God and fully man, Savior and Lord).
What salvation is (by grace through faith, not by works).
How to explain the cross, resurrection, and new life.
When theology is weak, the message becomes shallow, man‑centered, or even false. But when theology is strong, the missionary can clearly present the gospel that saves.
*3. Theology Protects the Missionary from Heresy and Drift*
Missionaries often work in isolation, far from mentors or denominational oversight. In such settings, they may face new interpretations, cultic teachings, or personal doubts. A missionary rooted in theology has a plumb line to test every spirit and every idea (1 John 4:1).
Sound theology is like a compass in the wilderness. It guards the missionary from straying into error or adopting unhealthy movements.
*4. Theology Empowers Contextualization Without Compromise*
Missionaries must present the gospel in ways local people can understand. This is called contextualization. But contextualization without theological depth can easily slip into compromise.
A missionary who knows theology understands what cannot be changed (the core of the gospel) and what can be adapted (language, style, cultural forms).
This balance comes only when the missionary knows the non‑negotiables of Scripture.
*5. Theology Strengthens the Missionary’s Personal Walk with God*
Missionary work can be lonely, painful, and confusing. In seasons of persecution, poverty, or apparent fruitlessness, what keeps a missionary going? A deep knowledge of God.
Knowing God’s sovereignty brings peace.
Knowing God’s love brings comfort.
Knowing God’s promises fuels perseverance.
A missionary who studies theology is not merely filling the mind but also nourishing the soul for long‑term endurance.
*6. Theology Equips the Missionary to Train Others*
The Great Commission does not stop at preaching; it involves discipling, teaching, and raising leaders. A missionary who knows theology can:
Establish churches on a solid foundation.
Train local pastors who will train others.
Write or translate resources that strengthen the Church in that region.
A missionary without theology may plant shallow seeds that wither; a missionary with theology can raise deep‑rooted oaks of righteousness.
*Conclusion*
A missionary’s heart must burn with love for the lost, but that flame must be guided by the light of truth. Theology and missions are not rivals; they are partners. One fuels the heart; the other shapes the message.
Therefore, every missionary should know theology—because the task is not merely to go, but to go with the true knowledge of God, teaching all nations to obey everything He has commanded (Matt. 28:20).
Passion without theology is a wildfire;
Theology without passion is a cold flame;
But together they become a torch that lights the nations."
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